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The Don't List



Reese Witherspoon posted this on Instagram this week and it struck a nerve.  A good nerve.  The second two Do Not's especially.

Like so many people, I've evolved to not speak as quick as I once would when angry or mad at something/one.  My mom has said as long as I can remember "You can't unring the bell" in regards to initially lashing out.  You can forgive, you can be forgiven, but what you say out of anger or frustration never leaves a person's mind entirely.  When stressed or angry, it can be so hard, but it really is best to take about 10 seconds, if not more, and think before launching into a response.

Sad.  When we have those days or moments where we just feel blue, sometimes it's easy to let that overtake all kinds of emotion.  If we again, like replying when angry, act too quickly, we can really miss out on a lot or make choices that we otherwise wouldn't be happy with.

As for the first don't, for me that tends to work out when applied in simpler forms.  Like if I get invited to do stuff when I'm feeling great and jolly, and then the time comes and I'm grouchy, I tend to grumble at first but usually am grateful once I get where I was going.  Now, obviously for big things in life, if you're feeling really happy on a day and you sign up for a mortgage you really shouldn't have, then yea, give that some second thought.

This entire post reaches me because I have made a conscious effort to live the last year or so with a focused yet calm intention.  I like to slow down and take it all in more.  I like to hustle and get things done, but also take it down a notch when I can just be.  In so many ways, quality over quantity rings truer than I've ever thought about.  It's pretty cool.

I believe if we remember kindness, act with grace, and acknowledge the positive in a little bit of the don't list, we just may be ight.

Let's meet again,
M

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